As a software engineer, I deal with computer codes more than human thoughts. But it has been more than four years, I have been in the field of counseling and psychology. One of the important facts that I learned from my counseling journey is that a husband cheats his wife more often than a wife cheats her husband.
But our society picturizes that the female partner cheats the male partner more frequently in a relationship. The truth behind this scenario is that when a husband cheats his wife, the wife forgives him for her unconditional love and care towards her husband as well as their children. And she takes all the pain and burden that her husband gave her, for his pleasure of life. She never complains nor utters a word to the world, instead she blames herself.
Most of the female partners around the globe forgive her male partners and ruin her life by loosing her self-respect and self-esteem. She hides her husband’s real face to the world. In order to protect their kid’s future, she herself becomes the shield. And ultimately one day the shield neither breaks into pieces nor it becomes so strong that it has the power to overcome any hurdles of life. Then she will rise like a Phoenix from ashes, with the power to burn all the pain she as suffered in her whole life.
Whereas when we look into a husband’s life, if his wife cheats on him the very next moment, he will just dump her, out of anger. Most of them. But there are a very few of them who understands the situation and act accordingly. Sometimes the wife may be innocent, she may be trapped, nor sometimes, it all may be happened due to the husbands’ ignorance.
This above scenario can be vice versa to a wife’s life, then too most of the mother’s around the globe sacrifices their career and life to their kids even though they have a broken relationship.
On this evolving world, the phrase “Single Mom” is very common. Their struggles and emotional traumas are never and ever discussed. Instead of supporting her, the society and family just blames her for being in such a situation. Very often, in most of the cases, a female partner is always blamed in a broken relationship even though the male partner is the cause.
To each and every couples around the globe, I have a word for you.” If you have any kind of problems in your relationship, please do take time to talk to each other, open up, share your thoughts, discuss and come to a solution, rather than cheating on each other nor betraying each other’s life.” And remember when taking a decision nor solution ,both partners in a relationship should consider your kids and both of them should respect each other’s value.