I grew up by hearing “Be careful”, ” Watch out”, or “No” by my parents and family. Most parents caution their daughters more than they caution their sons. Parents never teach their daughters to be courageous. This has been one of the main reason behind suicide deaths of young women within months of marriage, that have been reported in Kerala in past few months. Parents teach their daughters to become a “Good Girl” by teaching them to adjust their self in each and every circumstance they face in their life. This is equivalent to the situation where you keep a caterpillar inside a box without letting it fly with its beautiful wings to conquer this earth, by spreading seven colors of life and harmony.
Look around us, we can see women who adjust their married life with their husband who is cheating her for years. Often there are no choices for women to open up rather than committing suicide. Because she is scared of her own family and society. If she opens up, then the society would echo that “This all happened due to her fault in satisfying her husband ” nor the society would symbolize her as a feminist. Often women are blamed for unsuccessful marriage by the society .
If a woman went for divorce then she is stamped as a feminist and stubborn, or if a girl pursues her studies and career without marrying then she is a “Bad Girl” and she is having some problem , or if a mother goes for work then she is selfish and cruel. Most of the parents think that girls are fragile, and they need help. And this message permeates as we grow up. We all believe it and when we become parents we pass it on to our children.
Two years ago, Quartz published a story in which a professor said period cramps can be “almost as bad as having a heart attack”. If a woman can overcome this heart attack every month and risk her life bearing 57 del of pain which is equivalent to fracturing 20 bones at a time. Then how can one call a woman fragile?
To all the women and girls out there, It’s okay to be divorced , It’s okay to be single,It’s okay to be a working mom because you are the backbone of this whole universe. If you are broke, the entire universe may shatter into infinite pieces because you have the power to create , nurture and transform .